2018-3-2 CBMC中英文週一嗎哪

 
From: "Chinese Manna" <samy@brazilianautoparts.com.br>
Subject: 2018-3-2 CBMC中英文週一嗎哪
Date: March 12th 2018 5:55a.m.

                          週一嗎哪 

服事全球工商界

2018-3-12

By Jim Mathis

驕傲的危險

PERILOUS PITFALLS OF PRIDE

 

驕傲就像癌症或是高血壓一樣,是沉默的殺手。幾年前,歌手兼詞曲創作羅傑.米勒(Roger Miller)一首悲嘆居高不下離婚率的歌裡就寫道: 「我相信驕傲是使夫婦人數越來越少的主要原因。」

 

驕傲不僅是關係破裂的主要原因,也是商業交易、家庭衝突和戰爭的來源!驕傲使人想要報復和反擊。 「是他們先開槍的」、「這領土在糾紛發生前就是我們的。」「我們想要更大的生意、更好的買賣價格和利潤。」「我是被誤會的。」

 

幾年前,我站在自家咖啡館的櫃檯裡,一個老友走進來。他看著我的菜單問我說:「你會做菜單上所有的項目嗎?」我很快地回答他說:「當然,這個菜單是我開發的,咖啡師也是我訓練的,我知道怎麼調那些飲料。」十五年後,我仍然記得那個對話,因為那個對話提醒了我,當時我是如何地驕傲。我覺得自尊被挑戰,所以為自己辯解。

 

當時我也許是覺得很不安,或是想要讓他知道我才是咖啡廳裡的老大,才那樣回答關於菜單的事。其實我可以更輕鬆地更自在的回答他,無需有太大的反應。而且,就在最近,類似的事情又發生了,只不過這次我就是笑著說「會。」這是一個更好的回應。我喜歡箴言14章3節說的:「愚妄人口中驕傲,如杖責打己身;智慧人的嘴必保守自己。

 

在我們不注意的時候,驕傲常常出現,讓我們在受到小小的挑戰時,就產生自我防衛,或是用污辱和貶低的方式來輕蔑對方以壯大自己。例如,騷擾就經常發生在我們想摧毀對方的信心來建立自己的自尊的時候。在職場上,常常聽見性騷擾的事件。我不是在試圖簡化這個不斷發生的問題,但是性騷擾發生的原因常常是因為一個男性想要建立自己錯誤的男性尊嚴或是想隱藏自己在男性尊嚴上的不安全感。箴言11章2節:「 驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。

 

驕傲也有其他的面向。例如,在馬太福音22章39節當中,耶穌要我們愛人如己。在這個命令裡,耶穌要我們先愛自己,然後我們才有能力去愛別人。但是驕傲讓我們想在工作上居功: 在工作完成的時候覺得自豪以及因為想要讓人看見才把事情做好。同時,驕傲也鼓勵我們只重視體貼肉體的需求。

 

工商業界的人士,特別是當企業家需要自我介紹時,需要小心不讓驕傲、自我中心變成毒害關係的兇手。值得自豪和自大只有一線之隔,自信和自我膨脹也是。要辨別其中的不同,需要智慧和洞察的能力。此外,如果沒有神的智慧,有能力做事卻自以為謙卑不去做也可能變成一種逃避。

 

吉姆.馬提斯在堪薩斯州陸路公園市經營一家照相館。他的專長是商業和影劇界人像。他也經營一所攝影學校。他曾是一家咖啡店的經理,也曾是CBMC在堪薩斯州堪薩斯市和密蘇里州堪薩斯市的執行主任。

 

反省與問題討論

第一、當你在職場聽到驕傲兩個字,通常第一印象會是負面或正面的?請分享你的答案。

 

 

第二、對你而言,健康有生產力的自信和造成衝突與破壞的自大有甚麼不同?你是否可以舉一些你看過的例子。

 

 

第三、當我們在工作上表現得合乎這個世界的標準時,我們如何為自己感到驕傲,而不落入自大、自我中心以及為凸顯自己而踐踏別人的試探呢?

 

 

第四、你覺得過度的自信在商業和專業的領域是很常見,而真正的謙卑卻相對的罕見嗎?

 

 

 

備註: 如果你手上有聖經,希望閱讀更多與這個主題相關的經文,請參考:

箴言12:9 被人輕賤,卻有僕人,強如自尊,缺少食物。

箴言13:10驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。

箴言15:33敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。

箴言16:5凡心裏驕傲的,為耶和華所憎惡;雖然連手,他必不免受罰。

箴言16:18-19驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。心裏謙卑與窮乏人來往,強如將擄物與驕傲人同分。

箴言18:12 敗壞之先,人心驕傲;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。

箴言21:4 惡人發達(發達:原文是燈),眼高心傲,這乃是罪。

箴言22:4 敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。

箴言29:23 人的高傲必使他卑下;心裏謙遜的,必得尊榮。

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